It’s Okay to Not Be Okay

Do you ever feel like you have to “have it all together?”  Do you feel like you are putting on a fake face to show the world when deep down inside you are feeling bruised and broken?

Certainly sometimes we have to “fake it ‘til we make it”, but God doesn’t want us to live our lives this way. He made us to be reliant on him and sometimes that is through other people.   

When you are having a really bad day or going through a rough patch in your life, let people who love you the most know. Let me start by saying that if you are in a real state of depression or having thoughts of hurting yourself, please call 988 to get immediate help.  

However, if you are just in a season of life that seems like you are “stuck in the muck,” a friend or relative may be just the right person to call. You may be giving them a gift of feeling useful and trusted, fulfilling a part of them that needs to feel fulfilled. Or sometimes they may need to know that someone else is going through the same thing they are. It is important for your kids to witness you doing this because we all know that our children learn more from our actions than from our words (much to our chagrin sometimes!).

It’s okay to not be okay.  Everyone goes through periods of self-doubt and pain and that is a good thing. That is when real growth happens in our lives.  God does his best work when we are the weakest and most vulnerable.  

If you are going through a tough time, ask the Holy Spirit for the strength to be weak and allow him to work through others to help you feel like yourself again. Then give all glory to God for his benevolence and for putting just the right people in your life. 

Who knows? Maybe you will be the one they look to in the future because you have given them permission to be weak too.

Stacy LaMorte is a wife and mother of three. She is a personal trainer and is also enjoying her new profession as an ADHD and life coach to adolescents and adults. She enjoys spending time with her family and her two dogs, gardening, writing, traveling, reading and exercising.